Navigating a divorce with a pathological liar

On Behalf of | Jun 8, 2023 | Blog, Divorce

Dissolving a marriage is a challenging process under the best of circumstances. When you add a pathological liar spouse into the mix, it becomes even more difficult. You might struggle to separate fact from fiction, making it hard to come to a fair resolution.

Pathological liars have a tendency to bend the truth compulsively, regardless of the circumstances. As a result, they can manipulate the narrative to serve their interests. However, there are strategies to protect yourself during a divorce with such an individual.

Remain calm and composed

It is crucial to keep your emotions under control during interactions with a pathological liar. Emotions can cloud your judgment and give the other party an opportunity to exploit the situation.

Document everything

Keep track of all interactions, commitments and agreements. Having a written record can be invaluable in proving inconsistencies in your spouse’s statements.

Seek third-party verification

Wherever possible, verify claims independently. This can involve checking financial statements, cross-referencing information or speaking to relevant individuals.

Establish boundaries

You must set clear boundaries about acceptable behavior. This includes refusing to engage in unnecessary arguments or responding to false accusations.

Use professional mediators

Professional mediators can help maintain balance during negotiations. They provide a neutral environment and ensure both parties remain on topic.

Consider therapy or counseling

Psychological support can be immensely beneficial during this time. A therapist or counselor can provide strategies for dealing with a pathological liar, help maintain your emotional health and offer coping mechanisms.

Going through a divorce with a pathological liar presents unique challenges. By using these strategies, you can protect your interests and work towards a fair divorce settlement.